[Reader-list] posting march

[manju singh bhati]

“An Innocent Society”
For the last couple of weeks, I have been talking to some senior 
Gynecologists and their co workers such as Dr. Renu Gutpa, Sanjivani 
Hospital; Dr. Pinki Singh and Dr. Sunita (Kasturba Gandhi Hospital); 
Dr. Jyoti(LNJP Hospital); Dr. Madhu Batra (Priyadharshini Nursing 
Home).ALL  of them are unanimous about careless and insensitive 
attitude of our society towards pregnancy ou tof the wedlock.
About  40% of the admitted patients in the  Gynecology department 
consists of unmarried pregnant women.
Most of them masquerade as married women. 90% of them prefer going to
other cities than they live in. For example, residents of Delhi 
prefer togo to Ghaziabad, Meerut or a small anonymous  Nursing home 
in nearby Haryana. There are many examples of unmarried pregnant 
women coming all the way to Delhi from west Bengal, Orissa, MP and 
U.P. or vice versa.
Dr. Pinki told me that  a IXth Standard girl pregnant for 9 months 
had  come to Kasturba Gandhi Hospital with her parents during labour 
pain. Even after being confirmed as pregnant by ultrasound her 
parents denied the fact. They insisted on telling the lie that it is 
some kind of flesh growth inside the stomach. They were repeating 
again and again that our girl is not a loose character (Hamari Beti 
Aisi Nahi Hai). More surprising is that even after the birth of the 
baby, they did not accept it. “The doctors are forcing us to accept 
someone elses child” they repeated ad infinitum.
  Dr. Renu Gutpa is handling a case of a Bengali unmarried
Pregnant woman. This well brought up college going girl was dumped by 
her lover.But she is determined to give birth to the baby. “This is 
the first case in my 18 years career, when an unmarried woman is not 
opting for abortion “says Dr.Renu Gupta”. Despite the fact that she 
is bold enough to become a single mother ,she is unable to  deal with 
the ugly face of society and had to came all the way from Calcutta to 
Delhi to stay here and has  chosen an alien place Sanjivani Nursing
Home in Sahibabad for delivery.
These visibly secret nursing homes that  mushroom  in the narrow 
congested streets of small towns and suburbs reveal some dark truths 
of our civic society. These nursing homes are a respite for a large 
number  of the pregnant population in India.And more so for unmarried 
women.
As usual bulk of these women is from the lower strata of society. 
They live in hutments or Jhuggi Jhopdies. Large portion of them are 
between 13 to 16 years of age and are often raped by their own 
relatives such as father, brother, cousin, uncle etc. These rapes 
often take place in the afternoons when the mothers of these minors 
are out for  their jobs. A heavy percentage of these mothers are 
domestic workers, many small  labourers. Every day they have to leave 
their vulnerable teenage girls to the whims  of these vagabonds who 
hover around all day.
Some of the unmarried lot are  college girls or working women from 
middle class, who enjoy or experiment sex willingly. After getting 
impregnated , they take resort in these nursing homes. A few are 
school girls, who in their ignorance get  pregnant. Approx 99% of 
unmarried  pregnant girls go for early abortions and only 1% dare to 
give birth but even they prefer to give the baby to some orphanage.



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