[Reader-list] Thom Gunn: Pleasure, Eroticism, Domestic Stability
Vivek Narayanan
vivek at sarai.net
Thu Oct 1 13:23:01 IST 2009
Fascinating, longish essay on the poetry of Thom Gunn, a Brit poet who
replanted himself on the west coast, wrote often strictly formal poems
but on sometimes radical themes--see below.
Vivek
http://www.poetryfoundation.org/journal/article.html?id=236878
Sex, Drugs, and Thom Gunn by Tom Sleigh : Poetry Magazine [article/magazine]
The life and work of a true servant of eros.
by Tom Sleigh
A year before Thom Gunn died in 2004, he told me about going to visit
a sex clubhe wrote about such experiences, so I dont think theres any
reason not to speak about them. Since Im straight, he described it with
all the precision of someone describing the more technical aspects of
going rafting down the Colorado Riverthe club had two floors, one for
gays, one for straights, and if you were gay you could pay a little more
and descend among the straights, but if you were straight, you couldnt
ascend to be among the gays. There were little tents to go into when
youd found someone, and of course there was more. I like to check
myself on stories told to me by friends, and when I went online to find
out more for this essay, I found a place in San Francisco called the
Power Exchange that answered to some of what I remember him saying. But
not all. There are different floors, but theres a bottom floor with a
dungeon and bondage room, for a total of three floors, not two. And
there was no mention of tents, but rather theme playrooms: among others,
an ancient Egyptian room, a boxing ring, and a series of cubicles that
would seem to form a maze called Asshole Alley. There is different
pricing, but not as straightforwardly gay/straight as I remember. And of
course, its possible he was talking about a different club altogether.
What Im certain of is this: Regardless of the no drugs or alcohol
policies, Thom talked about the drugs people were on: Viagra, obviously,
but more to the point, speed (methamphetamine), PCP (AKA angel dust),
and ecstasy, though it was Thoms impression that more straights were
into that.
* * *
That sex and drugs go together should be no surprise to anyone, and in
Thom Gunns poems they become dual aspects of eros: on the one hand,
drugs and sex can open us up to vistas of human freedoms and
discoveries; and, on the other, they can lead to darker recognitions
about the world and ourselves. Gunns poems explore both aspects in a
way that is compassionate, nuanced, and wide-ranging in scope. So lets
start with Gunns attitude toward drugs. I had long known that he used
themfor that matter, so had I, speed, heroin, marijuana, a lot of
psychedelicsand drug use was one of the bonds of our friendship. I
dont mean that we did drugs together, for we werent friends in that
way. But I mean the psychological predisposition behind our drug use,
the kinds of assumptions we shared about what drugs could teach you, how
they opened up avenues of self-knowledge and wide-ranging spiritual and
social understandings that would ordinarily be closed to you. You always
took drugs for pleasure, of course, but part of that pleasure was the
possibilities they gave you to test what it meant to be a human being.
You might say that Gunn disagreed with Samuel Johnson when Johnson said
that you didnt need to experience evil in order to shun itthough Gunn
never thought of drugs as evil: rather, drugs were part of the pleasure
of people who have a romance with experience and, for better and worse,
take seriously the choices and obsessions that such a romance involves
you in, willy-nilly.
In a Jefferson Airplane song that was something of a psychedelic anthem,
Gracie Slicks exhortatory, Im-verging-on-ecstatic, sandpaper growl
spoke to the feeling of transformative power that drugs held for a
certain kind of user:
One pill makes you larger,
and one pill makes you small,
and the ones that Mother gives you
dont do anything at all.
Go ask Alice
when shes ten feet tall.
These lyrics convey a disinterested, deeply curious fascination with the
nuances of human personality as its illuminated by drugs. In Gunns
poem Listening to Jefferson Airplane, the physical phenomenon of the
music, as it comes and goes on the wind, is mirrored by its
psychological effect as it comes and goes on the brain. In that sense,
you could say that using drugs at a concert was a kind of laboratory to
learn about human behavior and the workings of your own mind; hanging
out with friends and the subtle and not-so-subtle transformations that
you and they underwent was one of the things about drugs that Gunn most
liked and that these lines, in both the song and his poem, point to.
And along with his attitude toward drugs, there was an ethos about
erotic play that he wrote about in an essay, My Life up to Now, in
which he discusses what his experiences in the sixties and early
seventies had meant to him: a communitarian ethos of pleasure and of how
pleasure and social equality were based on the freedom to give our
sexual natures and desires full expression. As Gunn wrote of the
Geysers, a hot-springs area in Sonoma County north of San Francisco:
Everyone walked around naked, swimming in the cool stream by day and at
night staying in the hot baths until early in the morning. Heterosexual
and homosexual orgies sometimes overlapped: there was an attitude of
benevolence and understanding on all sides that could be extended, I
thought, into the rest of the world. When I remember that small,
changing society of holidays and weekends, I picture a great communal
embrace. For what is the point of a holiday if we cannot carry it back
into working days? There is no good reason why that hedonistic and
communal love of the Geysers could not be extended to the working life
of the towns. Unless it is that human beings contain in their emotions
some homeostatic device by which they must defeat themselves just as
they are learning their freedom.
This was before AIDS, of coursebut I remember even after the Plague, as
it came to be called, had claimed many of Gunns friends, he still
insisted that he believed deeply in those values; and he once told me
that he doubted he could really trust or be good friends with anybody
who didnt share them. Not that he didnt have a profound understanding
of the workings of the less savory aspects of sexual self-knowledge
and becomingand his image of a homeostatic device of the emotions
displays a profound pessimism at the heart of his generous, radically
visionary view of sexual pleasure as a revolutionary force. But a force
also accompanied by depression, paranoia, self-suspicion,
self-alienation, jealousy, and despair.
His poetic sequence The Menace deals with all these emotions, in
which in a theatre of reflection/I encounter again/the exemplary
figure who is inducted by himself/into an army of fantasy and is at once:
guard father
executioner angel of death
delivering doctor judge
cop castrator
the-one-who-wants-to-get-me
As a form of paranoid projection, the menace leaps from the
night/fully armed, a djinn/of human stature whose hands hang
heavy/gloved for obscure purpose, and the lovers, in the course of the
poem, give their bodies, too: his arms/were our arms, his sperm
ours./His terror became/our play. In these lines, the menace goes from
being a djinn to a threatening, heavy-gloved figure, to a composite
figure of both their bodies, in which, during sexual play, they become
one inside the body of love, their sperm and arms fusing into the act of
making love, both love as sexual pleasure as well as the founding of a
new identity. And so the-one-who-wants-to-get-me starts out as a
paranoid projection and by poems end has metamorphosed into a cheerful
man in workclothes who stumbles off grinning/Bye babe gotta get
to the job. The menace as a projection of the speakers paranoid
consciousness becomes assimilated into the dailiness of domestic routine.
This transformation of terror into play and the consoling rhythms of
domesticity suggest that however much our sexuality is tied in to our
darker emotions, the great communal embrace of the Geysers has the
power to remake the way we envision our desires as we project them onto
others and experience their projections onto us. At the same time, the
communality of the embrace stands apart from the tea for two, you for
me, me for you trope of monogamous, exclusive, heterosexual love. In
fact, as Gunn says, such an embrace brought back from holiday would
change the working life of the towns. The subversiveness of the notion
and the political implications of that subversion are wide sweeping. If
the basis of democracy is the body and bodily pleasure, as the image of
a communal embrace at least partly suggests, then why shouldnt sexual
hedonism become one of the central values of the democratic contract?
And why shouldnt drugs be one of the tools that help the body politic
to achieve that contracts fulfillment?
Certainly Gunn is speaking as poet and not prophet (orgies fueled by
poppers in the Bank of America bank vault come to mind!), but the ideal
of this embrace exists as an abiding conviction and underwrites all
Gunns poetry. For the poet, the passages of joy, in Samuel Johnsons
phrase, are not only erogenous but civic as well. And lest this seem too
utopian, not to say soft-headed, a conviction, I want to again stress
that Gunn was all too aware, even at the height of his belief in the
possibilities of change, that we all continue to carry the same
baggage: in my world, Christian does not shed his burden, only his
attitude to it alters. But as he also says, his life insists on
continuities. And so even though the great sweep of the acid years
has been denounced by conservatives and liberals alike for its embrace
of drugs and hedonism, I deeply admire Gunns faithfulness to that
vision: everything that we glimpsedthe trust, the brotherhood, the
repossession of innocence, the nakedness of spiritis still a
possibility and will continue to be so.
At the same time, his need for domesticity is an inherent part of that
vision, as suggested by how the-one-who-wants-to-get-me, in all its
erotic thrill and chill, becomes the ordinary man whom Gunn sleeps next
to, his body cupping the fine warm back,/broad fleshed shoulder
blades. So just as Gunn puts a premium on sexual freedom, he evinces an
equal need for domestic stability. And while Gunn speaks about the
dangers of using a poets biography to narrow the meanings of his poems
in a way that diminishes them, I think its instructive that his home
life also reflected his communitarian spirit: he lived in a group house,
with housemates, in which each in turn cooked dinner on assigned nights
of the week. It was a remarkably stable arrangement and lasted from
1971, when Gunn bought the house on Cole Street in the Haight, until his
death in 2004. During that time, Gunn had many lovers and sexual
partners, but he also spent thirty-three years with the same housemates.
Sex, drugs, and rock n rollas Gunn says in his poem Transients and
Residents, I like loud music, bars, and boisterous menarent
necessarily incompatible with personal loyalty, homebodiness, and
domestic stability.
Of course, Im betraying typical heterosexual, basically monogamous
biases/hangups here: whoever said that domestic life and sexual freedom
are opposed? Well, to take an extreme, lets look at this quote from Pat
Robertson, host of the Christian Rights 700 Club. As he said in the
Washington Post, August 23, 1993: The feminist agenda is not about
equal rights for women. It is about a socialist, anti-family political
movement that encourages women to leave their husbands, kill their
children, practice witchcraft, destroy capitalism, and become lesbians.
While this is inadvertently comic, and easy and obvious a target though
Robertson is, it should be noted that his particular brand of paranoia,
in its fear of same-sex eroticism as a destroyer of hubbys happy home,
is one thats shared, in a much more tamped-down style, by a lot of
straight men and women, particularly if children are involved. On the
other hand, one wonders what Robertson would make of Family Day in
Provincetown, Massachusetts, where gay couples wheel baby carriages down
Commercial Street amid a generally party-hearty atmosphere, and where,
as far as one can tell, no knife-wielding, capitalist-hating, depraved
lesbos are slitting their babies soft little throats and dancing to old
Black Sabbath tracks at a witches coven. But I bring up these issues
not to debate the merits of monogamy, patriarchy, or black magic,
whether practiced by gays or straights, but to stress the depth of
Gunns social and poetic commitments: as Keats would say, Gunn proved
them on his pulses; and in his life and in his work he shows how
pleasure and eroticism and domestic stability were, for him, a seamless
continuum.
This is no common perception. As a matter of fact, when you survey
literary tropes associated with love poetry in English going all the way
back to Thomas Wyatt, it turns out to be a highly original one, at least
as far as literature is concerned. Wrack my brains as I might, I cant
come up with a single straight writer of the twentieth century or, for
that matter, any century who develops this trope such that all three of
these qualities seem mutually entailing. When I mentioned this to an
extremely well-read, female straight friend, she, too, was unable to
come up with a single name; and though she did suggest Rumi, we both
agreed that he fudged the issue by making the beloved synonymous with
God. Several other names, Edna St. Vincent Millay, late Yeats, were
quickly dismissed. And after a moment or two of silence, my friend
said, Actually, its kind of sad. Sad that eroticism and pleasure and
domestic stability are seen as antithetical, at least as a poetic
convention for straight writers. And so its no exaggeration to say
that Gunns development of this trope of seamless connection among
eroticism, pleasure, and domestic stability is one of the deep sources
of his originality.
As regards Gunns originality, I think my friend also meant that it was
sad because of the limited repertoire of roles that straight people feel
are available to them, as well as the constraint on feeling that these
roles impose on the conventions of heterosexual love poems. I dont for
a moment think Gunn is advocating that heteros expand the range of
those roleshe never expressed any sentiment about other peoples sexual
desires, except to say, quite sensibly, that everyone should do whatever
turns them on. Which is simply to say, again, that Gunns vision, his
community of the carnal heart, is the vision of a poet and not a
social reformer: it isnt a poets duty to preach, or to do anything at
all but write the poems that come his or her way. But its one of the
inadvertent pleasures in reading Gunn to discover in his imagination a
passion to propose new forms of human relation, at least as far as the
straight world is concerned, through the practice of his art. This is
what I mean when I say that Gunns vision is socially radical in its
implications. It isnt just Pat Robertson and his fear of slinky witches
dancing around in the latest from Victorias Secret: its the conflicted
and conflicting ways gay and straight conceive of their sexual freedoms
and constraints when you compare Gunns version of community through
sexual connection, and the typical conventions that surround
heterosexual passion as it gets expressed through love poetry in English
for the past five hundred years.
Gunn writes very movingly of the vicissitudes of his particular kind of
domesticity in The Hug, a poem addressed to his longtime partner, Mike
Kitay. In the poem, their grand passion has grown so familial that
when he wakes to find his partner hugging him from behind, he says:
It was not sex, but I could feel
The whole strength of your body set,
Or braced, to mine,
And locking me to you
As if we were still twenty-two
When our grand passion had not yet
Become familial.
My quick sleep had deleted all
Of intervening time and place.
I only knew
The stay of your secure firm dry embrace.
The dryness of the embrace marks the transition from sexual to domestic
love, from the physical joy of sex to the physical joy of being held by
someone with whom a life has been shared. Now, what heterosexual male
poet would celebrate such a transition? Presumably, that poet would say
how sexual attraction was attendant on the hug; or else the poet would
lament the passing of such passion. But Gunn does neitheror if there is
a touch of melancholy, it is balanced by an equal sense of triumph. To
make the point even clearer, and to ground it in the differences
between Gunns version of domestic love and the hetero tea for two
version, allow me once again to resort to biography. Bill Schuesslera
friend whom Gunn and Kitay met in 1967, the Summer of Lovemoved in with
them in 1971. According to Schuessler, It was the happiest time in my
life, really. It was a wonderful time to be alive in San Francisco. But
it was more than that: I was wildly in love with Mickey [Kitay]. And
Thom became almost like a father figure to me because he was always
looking out for me. Which was incredibly strangeor nicegiven that
Mickey was his lover. It sounds like incest, but we all got along
together. The sexual mores that govern how we act out our carnal fates
are obviously beyond the bounds of this essay, but how many straight
households, how many Elizabeth Barretts and Robert Brownings, could
adjust to the addition of a third wheel, with or without a night out at
the Power Exchange, with or without a handy supply of mood-inducing drugs?
* * *
I remember the last time I visited Thom at his house on Cole Street. We
talked for a long time about how the Haight had changed and was changing
ever more rapidly into a well-to-do neighborhood, and about how he
himself was changing, taking long naps, finding it difficult to write.
And later, when we walked to get lunch, he told me little spicy stories
about people whom he knew that certain houses or shops reminded him of,
back in the day, before the neighborhood had gone upscale. He was
dressed in a black sweatshirt that sported an image of Bluto (Popeyes
rival in the Popeye comic strip and cartoons), black motorcycle boots,
black jeans, and an earring that gave him an air of piratical suavity
and grace. He spoke about how the last time hed been to a sex club,
everybody had been speeding their brains out, and how it hadnt been
much fun. But he said it in such a way that you knew that this was all
part of the adventure, part of his lifelong romance with experience that
would end a few months later with him pronounced dead, according to the
autopsy report, from acute polysubstance abuse. Whatever you make of
his death, Thom was a true servant of eros. And in keeping with that
devotion, his New Jerusalem was an open one in its generous conviction
that the ecstatic could become a communal property, open to anyone, an
apocalyptic city of carnal fulfillment and desire, in which his work
will forever be one of the cornerstones.
This piece is excerpted from a longer essay, which will appear in its
entirety in At the Barriers: On the Poetry of Thom Gunn, edited by
Joshua Weiner, published by the University of Chicago Press this summer.
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