[Reader-list] FW: csa and homosexuality

[Asthana, Rahul]

Seeking clarification from sarai.Please see Shivam's and mine emails below.
Thanks
Rahul
-----Original Message-----
From: shivam [mailto:zest_india at yahoo.co.in]
Sent: Friday, June 18, 2004 11:07 AM
To: Asthana, Rahul
Subject: RE: csa and homosexuality



Rahul, these are predicaments i deal with every day,
and i want to annoy as few people as possible. i don't
know what the list is meant for. we should ask the
sarai ppl to clarify?
thanks
shivam

--- "Asthana, Rahul" <Rahul.Asthana at CIBC.com> wrote: >
Shivam,
> Thanks for your views.
> I want to ask you a question,though.
> Why did you take the list off the thread?
> I know somebody protested that we should not be
> filling up their mailbox or
> something like that(and I accidentally deleted that
> mail),but aren't we
> supposed to discuss issues here?I really did not
> think that me and Nitin got
> personal.We do sometimes tend to get terse, or may
> be even personal,but
> thats how we revise our opinion,realize our
> mistakes,provoke thoughts and
> reach some sort of conclusion.Like I did when Nitin
> pointed out that I was
> trying to trivialize his conversation.
> Or perhaps I am getting it wrong.This list is mainly
> for announcements?
> Thanks
> Rahul
> 
>  
> 
> -----Original Message-----
> From: shivam [mailto:zest_india at yahoo.co.in]
> Sent: Friday, June 18, 2004 7:33 AM
> To: Asthana, Rahul; nkarani at hotmail.com;
> geeta.patel at verizon.net
> Subject: csa and homosexuality
> 
> 
>  
> dear nitin,
> 
>  we are talking about two things here really:
> 
> 1) a homosexual abusing a minor with the INTENTION
> of
> turning him or her a homosexual;
> 2) a minor becoming a homosexual because of child
> sexual abuse.
> 
> Both are ideas coming from Virani's book, and though
> I
> agree with you that the first may be debatable, I
> think the second is undeniable. This is not to say
> that every gay is a CSA victim or that every CSA
> victim is a gay. But surely, if a person is sexually
> abused in his or her formative years, it may have
> some
> effect on his or her sexuality. Homosexuality,
> according to Virani's book, can be one of these
> effects. I suggest you pick up the book and try and
> understand CSA and its trauma, though you and I can
> never understand it the way a victim does. Virani
> estimates that 1 in every 4 girls and 1 in every 6
> boys in India are CSA victims. That's huge, no?
> 
> Regards,
> Shivam
> 
>
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