[Reader-list] Fw: Fw: 'What Is Eve Teasing?' - Opinion Poll Results

[subhrodip sengupta]

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From: subhrodip sengupta <sub_sengupta at yahoo.co.in>
To: Rahul Asthana <rahul_capri at yahoo.com>
Sent: Wed, 4 November, 2009 9:52:57 AM
Subject: Re: [Reader-list] Fw: 'What Is Eve Teasing?' - Opinion Poll Results


ONE case of murder or shameful assualt sometimes led us to skip the news paper article...............................
job losses go unnoticed,
But see the concern raised on issues of eve-teasing, hurt being hurt but assault less.
This shows that divided may we be on this matter but everybody is concerned on one beautiful aspect of life GENDER.



Another interesting pick We read newspapers. But newspapers are biased in Geographical limits.
They pick out, sometimes consciously, sometimes elsewise when to report a crime when to not. 
Outside township part, in Durgapur for instance every month there is a Rape and murder. But newspapers rarely watch it..........




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From: Rahul Asthana <rahul_capri at yahoo.com>
To: Meera Rizvi <meera.rizvi at gmail.com>; Kshmendra Kaul <kshmendra2005 at yahoo.com>
Cc: Readers list Yousuf Sarai. <reader-list at sarai.net>
Sent: Wed, 4 November, 2009 9:23:21 AM
Subject: Re: [Reader-list] Fw: 'What Is Eve Teasing?' - Opinion Poll Results

There obviously will be a fair bit of subjectivity involved in the interpretation of eve teasing,which is causing confusion to people.
To me,the so called admiring the beauty of a girl will not be eve teasing,while a girl who experiences harassment for a large part of her both outdoor and indoor life,any such appreciation will be intimidating.

People adapt to their surroundings but it should be explicitly spelled it out in this case.If you are living in a society where more often than not strangers approaching girls have no sense of propriety, you should keep your well intentioned appreciation to yourself;or otherwise,approach the girl in a way that is least intimidating to her,preferably through a common acquaintance.

Please read blogs to see what girls feel about strangers who approach them.Your intention really does not matter,its how the girl perceives it is what matters.

Needless to say,if you were in say, the  U.S. of A, where girls live in a far more secure environment,you might not be required to be so careful and considerate.


--- On Tue, 11/3/09, Kshmendra Kaul <kshmendra2005 at yahoo.com> wrote:

> From: Kshmendra Kaul <kshmendra2005 at yahoo.com>
> Subject: Re: [Reader-list] Fw: 'What Is Eve Teasing?' - Opinion Poll Results
> To: "Meera Rizvi" <meera.rizvi at gmail.com>
> Cc: "Readers list Yousuf Sarai." <reader-list at sarai.net>
> Date: Tuesday, November 3, 2009, 2:53 PM
> Dear Meera
>  
> Very appropriately put by you:
>  
> """"' Eve teasing refers to situations which feel
> disempowering to a woman - where she feels scared, nervous
> and violated. ........ So, in short, eve teasing, simply
> defined is an attempt to brow beat a woman, to undermine her
> will and to snatch from her the freedom of choice. """""''
>  
> I do not agree though with the comment " These situations
> depict contempt rather than admiration."
>  
> Wonder if you would agree that there is some graded
> evaluation to be recognised ranging from the "eve teasing"
> of the pre-puberty years on to immediate-post-puberty years
> and onwards. Would it also be reasonable to distinguish
> between "eve teasing" and "sexual harrasment" with the later
> resorted to by men in such positions and situations where
> they find it easy to intimidate and bully.
>  
> Kshmendra
>  
> 
> --- On Mon, 11/2/09, Meera Rizvi <meera.rizvi at gmail.com>
> wrote:
> 
> 
> From: Meera Rizvi <meera.rizvi at gmail.com>
> Subject: Re: [Reader-list] Fw: 'What Is Eve Teasing?' -
> Opinion Poll Results
> To: "subhrodip sengupta" <sub_sengupta at yahoo.co.in>
> Cc: "Readers list Yousuf Sarai." <reader-list at sarai.net>
> Date: Monday, November 2, 2009, 9:13 AM
> 
> 
> Dear Subhrodip,
> 
> There is no problem in showing your liking for someone.
> Most women, and I
> speak as a woman, are flattered by genuine admiration even
> if they do not
> return it. Eve teasing refers to situations which feel
> disempowering to a
> woman - where she feels scared, nervous and violated. These
> situations
> depict contempt rather than admiration.
> 
> So, if I am waiting for walking on a lonely road, and
> someone rides their
> motorbike too close to me - I would consider it eve teasing
> even though they
> may not have touched or groped. If you are waiting on a
> lonely bus stop at a
> late hour and a car stops a few feet away from you, it
> makes most women
> nervous. On the other hand, if the same thing happened when
> one was with a
> gang of friends, it would not even register. Or if it did,
> it would be
> amusing.
> 
> So, in short, eve teasing, simply defined is an attempt to
> brow beat a
> woman, to undermine her will and to snatch from her the
> freedom of choice.
> Asking someone out politely is not eve teasing.
> 
> Regards,
> 
> Meera
> 
> 
> 
> 
>       
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